The Power in Keeping Perspective
When I was a kid, I had a telescope. I loved gazing through it at the night sky with all of its stars and planets. I marveled at how something so very, very far away could actually appear so close. One time (like all kids do), I turned the telescope around and looked...
Sex: Why Couples Struggle To Talk About It
This is a topic I rarely cover in my blogs, but yet it's often covered with when working with many couples. Physical intimacy is an active part of a healthy relationship, but sadly for many sexuality is treated as the third rail when it comes to being able to talk...
Fear Versus Anxiety
As a counselor, people share with me everyday about their fears. Some fear divorce. Some fear dying. Others fear themselves or their parents. Others fear being alone or even being with people. It’s a topic (https://www.mendedlife.com/the-effect-of-fear-how-to-cope/)...
Sadness Versus Depression
My friends are raising identical twins. They dress their kids alike, fix their hair the same, and even gave them the same initials. I often wonder how they tell these two kids apart. I once asked my friends if they ever get the kids mixed up, and they didn’t hesitate...
Divorce Recovery – Transitioning Through Divorce
Have you ever needed to put something in an envelope after you sealed it? Oh yeah, we’ve all done it sometime in our lives, I did it this morning! Turns out, things that have been bonded together do not pull apart very easily – Seem there’s almost always damage and...
Marriage: In, Out, or Wait
Remember back in science class when you learned about the three forms of water? Since some of us are far removed from the school ages days, let me refresh your memory. Water can take on three different forms: liquid (water), gas (vapor), or solid (ice). At any given...
Wives – Are Unknowingly Poisoning Your Marriage?
I recently saw a documentary about a wife who was convicted of murdering her husband by slowly poisoning him over the span of about a year – rat poison I believe it was. Tragic and horrific, she’d begun shortly after they’d married. As the man grew sicker, no one knew...
Husbands – Is Your Marriage Tomorrow’s Rust Bucket Or Treasured Classic?
I almost rear ended a car the other day. It would’ve been my fault because I was distracted by something I saw. The sight of something beautiful caused me to stare, and to lose my focus. Before you jump to conclusions, it’s not what you think... You see, I passed a...
Playing – The Blame Game
Do you know how the world’s first people handled their very first conflict? In the same manner many of us still handle problems or conflicts – by passing the blame. In Genesis 3, we read the story of how sin entered the world. The serpent tempted Eve, she ate the...
Keeping Your Personal Power In Conflict
We’ve heard the old saying about two things that are certain in life: death and taxes. While that’s true, I think we can add a third thing to the list: problems. Even Jesus Christ told his disciples that in this world they WILL have problems (Matthew 16:33). Not maybe...